I read today, … Maybe he is having alot of family issues right now. Reply. Many women that reach out to me for help deeply ponder why do men disappear, often without a word. why he left me without saying a word? *Why? Jane says. My husband left without a word at Christmas, it has been 8 years, my anniversary is the 31st. We had not fought, or had a cross word. So much of yourself in a marriage, building your life gone without a trace. *She is the reason I left… After dating me for about three or four months and getting close to my mom, this boyfriend told me he had to "visit family in Virginia." He has the revelation that maybe this isn’t something he wants long term, and he disappears right in the middle of the process of wooing you. I found out later that he'd moved in with his ex-girlfriend somewhere down south. You see a man does exactly what it is he wants to do. It happen to me also. Therein lies the mixed message. They look for reasons and justifications for why he disappears then reappears again. Once the narcissist no longer values you, he/she discards you completely putting an end to your relationship. *If I told her then she would just cry or start yelling that I don’t care about ‘her’. I dont know. I just did *She wouldn’t stop (nagging/trying to change me/was clingy/wouldn’t give me space) but I couldn’t tell her that or she would have cried. We always want someone to answer our "whys", Wendy. I don’t care why I broke up with her. My stock would rise, he'd seduce me back, and I'd enjoy the upper hand; but it was only a matter of time before the jockeying would start all over again. My husband left without a word at Christmas, it has been 8 years, my anniversary is the 31st. Aha…. Move on. You realised you weren’t worth the truth. we were together for 4 months...I loved him so much and he said he loved me (I don't know now if he was telling the truth) ..everything seemed great between us..and also we had sex.. 2 weeks ago he cut all his connection with me… One moment he was acting gaga, now he’s GONE. A question that is insanely tricky, confusing, mind-boggling and interesting at the same time. My emails and voice mails have gone un answered. There really are no justifications for this behavior. When he leaves without an explanation, that’s when your self-esteem hits low. January 27, 2014 at 7:40 am. Its probably time to move on if he truly cared about you he would have told you his reasoning by now , he would make some kind of effort to speak to you he would not leave you without a word. He never did. I never saw it coming, and to have no closure is the worst feeling. Even worse, he may have bounced without even communicating a compassionate and direct explanation to you. The phase of these mixed emotions continues until they take a decision to leave you. Everything was fine between us or so I thought. He just walked out of my life, leaving me dumbfounded, leaving me lost, leaving me out of control of my own emotions. So much of yourself in a marriage, building your life gone without a trace. That’s when you began to doubt everything you thought you know, everyone you thought you trust. How do I stop looking for closure on why he just left in the middle of the night without a word and move forward because he is in my thoughts way too much for my liking. Hmm. He told me when we met he … I never saw it coming, and to have no closure is the worst feeling. After waiting about 2 months without a word, I realized he was never coming back. One month ago he abruptly cancelled a date, and has not been seen or heard from since. It happen to me also. The Patterns of the Narcissist at the end of the Relationship: I read today, … See Why men leave “perfect” women: what EVERY woman needs to know.